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Healing with Hera: Willow and Bitterness

August 24, 2010

 

Willow Wreaths and a Picket Fence

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Human nature dictates that each of us has needed this Bach Flower Remedy at some time. It can occur when another’s good fortune contrasts too sharply with our own situation and jealously and resentment overtake us.

At those times, we rail at our fate and blame everything and everyone but ourselves for our situation. Self-pity is our over-riding emotion. We may feel so resentful that we’re tempted to put an end to someone else’s cheerfulness by doing something to spoil their day!

Quite obviously, we aren’t happy and comfortable with ourselves. A few doses of this Bach Flower Essence can bring us back to our normal state.

When the negative Willow state becomes chronic, it can have a destructive effect on the sufferer – and on everyone around him. Willow is a state in which feelings are powerfully projected into the outside world.

In this state, people are very good at making demands, but never see a need to reciprocate. They criticize to an extent that they finally alienate all those who once tried to help them. Eventually, people grow tired of trying and withdraw.

Thus, the chronic Willow type becomes more isolated, and more embittered over the injustices in his or her life.

He holds grudges, sometimes for years, and sometimes for reasons that have become unclear. Rather than erupting and “having it out” with someone, he will smoulder and emit clouds of toxic energy.

Because he is a victim, he will never take responsibility or look within to see the reasons for his many failures. As do those in other negative flower essence states, this personality refuses to accept guidance from his or her Higher Self.

Often, people who have not experienced the success they wished for fall into the negative Willow State as they meet the midpoint in life. They bemoan promotions not received, status not attained, possessions not owned. Those who place a high value on physical attractiveness bewail the fact that his or her looks are fading.

Those being treated with this Bach Flower Remedy will gradually come to see that everything he or she experiences is the outcome of personal thoughts being projected into the outer world, and will begin working to change those thoughts. He will learn to deliberately focus on the positive rather than the negative, and thus begin to bring about positive changes.

Once transformed to the positive state, this person will take responsibility for his or her own fate. He will cease being a victim, and will become the master of her own fate. Thus, he will begin once again to enjoy life. ~ Source FlowerBach.com

A Second Opinion

The Bach flower remedy Willow in its negative state is filled with bitterness inside at the unjust deal that life has dealt. These people are constantly looking out at everyone and they feel frustrated when they see someone doing well, thinking that good things should be happening to them too. This puts them in a state of perpetual grumbling. Willow slowly edges out the bitterness and teaches them to be strong and make their own destiny – and to be happy doing it. 

Physical

They usually are the wet blankets in any get together. You’ll find them looking out for someone or something to blame. Some however, smoulder in silence and this is worse maybe because it causes serious health problems. High blood pressure, stiff muscles, allergies – a lot of them suffer needlessly because they just cannot accept their lives as is. Willow tends to help them ease up and take responsibility for their own health and their own lives.

Mental

Their minds are constantly comparing and making themselves out to be the victims. This mentality makes them hate everything and everyone around them because what they see is what they would have liked to be. They always feel life has passed them by and they never take responsibility for this. They rail against other people, against God and against the fates. Willow helps them see how futile this is and with regular use, they learn to depend on themselves for their own fortune. 

Emotional

Since they always feel that theirs is a life that is sad, they find it difficult to love or let themselves be loved. Till they learn to love themselves – and Willow helps in that – they find it very difficult to remain in good relationships. 

Spiritual

They feel that any higher power should be kind to them and shower them with blessings. Anything that goes wrong, they need a scapegoat – and who better than the divine? The trouble is, nothing is ever right in their world – they always focus on what goes wrong. Willow helps them focus on their blessings – helps them count them and be grateful for what they have, thereby opening up their hearts, minds and spirits for more blessings to flow in. 

Insight by Shalini Kagal blatantly swiped from Hubpages.

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Had a night on the tiles lately to drown your sorrows?

Bend, little willow
Wind’s gonna blow you
Hard and cold tonight
Life, as it happens
Nobody warns you
Willow, hold on tight.

Nothing’s gonna shake your love
Take your love away
No one’s out to break your heart
It only seems that way…hey

Sleep little willow
Peace gonna follow
Time’s gonna heal your wounds
Grow to the heavens
Now and forever
Always came too soon.

Little willow

Nothing’s gonna shake your love
Take your love away
No one’s out to break your heart
It only seems that way…hey

Bend, little willow
Wind’s gonna blow you
Hard and cold tonight
Life, as it happens
Nobody warns you
Willow, hold on tight.

Ahhh, little willow
Little willow

 

 

~ Little Willow, lyrics by Paul McCartney

Sources: Hera – The First Greek Goddess 

Coming Attraction: Lachesis – the Second Fate

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